Beware of this failure trap when setting goals

by Brenda Do

avoid failure when setting goals

Whenever we start working towards a goal, we often sabotage ourselves before we even start.

Because in our well-meaning mind, we expect perfection.

Think about the last time you had a personal or business goal. Like any good planner, you expected to hit certain milestones by certain times, right?

But what happens when you don’t hit your goals?

Maybe you’re not fitting into your skinny jeans yet…

You expected to make more money than you do…

Or your blood pressure isn’t as low as you want.

If you’re like me, any time you start feeling like you’re failing at your goal, you probably start beating yourself up.

When I do that, it increases my frustration, my chance or errors, and plummets my motivation. Making it worse, I end up getting caught in a paralyzing loop that keeps me focused on what I didn’t do right.

If this sounds familiar, try adopting this smart advice from a friend of mine…

Rather than beat yourself up for what you didn’t do, why not acknowledge what you did do?

This can be what you may consider the “little things” we often take for granted.

But those little things may be what keeps you on track verses quitting right before the big success hits.

Here’s how you do it
Instead of focusing on low sales, congratulate yourself for making 15 phone calls and leaving 15 voicemails that you’ll follow up with.

Instead of being frustrated with your golf game, congratulate yourself for sinking that 3-foot putt and having the gumption to go out there and practice.

Instead of feeling guilty about chowing down on those French fries, congratulate yourself for the extra veggies you eat every day.

This isn’t an excuse to be lazy
Please understand, this isn’t a mamby pamby excuse to blow off your goals or make excuses for doing less. It’s a way to keep you on track and pushing forward when progress doesn’t happen as fast as you want. Or when you need that extra nudge to work a little harder.

Next steps
Let’s make it a regular practice to acknowledge what you did accomplish each day, instead of focusing on what you didn’t do.

Practice recognizing your achievements by filling this out before going to bed…

I deserve to give myself a high-five today because