Are you a moth or a butterfly?

If you’ve heard the term social butterfly, it can take on different meanings. For me it sounded like someone who didn’t have a care in the world or was somewhat flighty.

Until someone said to me “You’re a social butterfly”.

Excuse me! I know people who are way more social than me!

Then I thought what’s wrong with being social?

I had heard about socially active people who live longer and decided to look into it a little deeper.

Having social activities and outlets is critical in your physical and mental well-being while you age. There are numerous studies that support the benefits of social activity.

Several studies report fewer colds, lower blood pressure and lower heart rates in participants with strong social ties.

Statistics show that marriage, perhaps the strongest tie, adds years to your life expectancy. And suicide, mental illness, and alcoholism rates are much lower when people feel a sense of belonging.

One of the things that happens to all of us as we age is we lose family and friends who’ve passed away.

For some people they don’t expand their social circles after their losses and begin to pull inward and become less social.

We have all heard about the recluse who doesn’t have any friends or family. It’s sad but it doesn’t have to happen.

We all have a choice to make in these situations. The studies are out there that support the importance of remaining social throughout our lives.

I began to think about the “butterfly” analogy associated with being social and thought it to be interesting when compared to what insect would be considered unsocial.

Turns out the moth and the butterfly are related and come from the same scientific order Lepidoptera but they differ in quite unique ways.

The butterfly is colorful, is active mostly in the day, and thrives in the outdoors flying and enjoying plant life in many places.

The moth is typically less colorful, is nocturnal, and thrives either in the closet (ruining our clothes) or flying and existing around a light at night.

Sure there are times I want to be alone, and that can be cathartic, but solitude can become a habit.

So what do you want to be the moth or the butterfly?

Do you want to stay in the closet or hover around a light, television or computer, all night? Or would you prefer to be enjoying the daylight, being colorful, and seeking new experiences?

When given a choice I’ll choose to be the social butterfly.

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Until next time….

Yours for living gracefully,

letter from Mike